Hello peeps, hope you are doing well . Welcome back to our blog, this is our little space where we love to share what we have learned and hope it inspires someone else.
Here we are with a new topic “Healing Childhood Trauma”. Childhood is a very beautiful period in our life, but it is also the most vulnerable: we grow up and learn about the world around us. And that period can affect the way we function as adults, the traumatic experiences of childhood can very well affect our adulthood if they are left neglected or invalidated or unresolved. That's why I still don't know how to react to certain things because even though I'm an adult now, if something triggers me and reminds me of my trauma, it's the little girl, me at 8 years old, who will react to it.
Via Wikipedia they explain Childhood traumas are the result of childhood experiences. As children, we can have a variety of experiences that can be characterized as psychological trauma, including neglect, abandonment, sexual and physical abuse, verbal abuse,witnessing sibling abuse or of a parent, or of having a sick relative. And “these events have profound psychological, physiological and sociological impacts and can have negative and long-lasting effects on health and well-being.”
In this article we want you to learn that there’s hope to heal those traumas and to reclaim your power to live a free life.
Yes!, you can overcome your toxic habits and behaviors caused by the effects of childhood trauma, that anger or bitterness can go and become free from it .
“Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.”
When I was a kid, I didn't like playing, not just playing something specific ‘I just hated playing!’. Not because I didn't like it but because I was afraid of falling and afraid of being slapped by my aunt when I got dirty.
I thought when I grew up I would not be afraid anymore, bye bye that feeling of fear. But then, Boom, now I'm here with BIG fears than to fall down and get dirty, “fear of failure, not doing what's right, and hearing that little voice telling me again I have to behave and be perfect, that it is not enough yet, I am not there yet, afraid of not making my parents proud,…and the list keeps growing now it is disappointment, and loneliness... ”
This is me sharing one of my traumas and how it has been affecting my adulthood. I’m sure some can relate but others they’re starting to identify theirs.
5 Ways to heal your childhood trauma:
-Acknowledge The trauma :
acknowledging that childhood trauma helped me facing my BIG fears, let’s normalize people to not minimize any events in our childhood or pretending nothing happened or try to self blame , to acknowledge your trauma always takes enormous power to have control over your life.
-Don’t isolate yourself and find support:
seeking help can be difficult because of this natural instinct for trauma survivors to pull out from others, but I have to tell you that telling a friend about my trauma and how it affects me to have fear of pain and failure has brought me so much peace because someone else now knows what is going on and receiving encouragement from that friend helps me feel comfortable to start the healing process.
Please talk to someone you trust, it can be a family member or friend or professional counselor , do not continue to isolate yourself this will make things worse.
-Don’t rush the process:
Let’s be patient because if you were so much hurt as a child, they say that there are out-of-control emotions, hopelessness, defense mechanisms you have developed and it will take some time and work to let go of those feelings. But you can celebrate your progress even with the small wins. They also say it’s the little victories in your recovery that will help you to overcome your childhood
-Take care of your mental health:
Let's start accepting what happened and let it go, let's start living! and it doesn't mean you agree or like it. Acceptance means owning it and stopping it to own your actions and behavior. Taking care of your mental health is about developing the ability to cope with stress or your triggers, initiating a routine that allows you to rest and relax during the day.
Eat well, exercise regularly, take long walks in nature , practice more gratitude. Please don’t try to cope with your trauma with alcohol, drugs, toxic relationships, food, social media ... etc.
These things provide temporary relief which can increase feelings of depression, anxiety and isolation and then the situation gets out of control , try to commit suicide because your trauma is getting worse.
-Don’t lose FAITH :
Having trauma can make us believe less in ourselves; we feel inadequate in everything we do, sometimes we even lose our faith in God because of the bad experiences happened to us , but for me now i'm learning to believe in myself and rebuild my trust in God’s promises by reading the bible rather than letting the bad memories of a difficult childhood rob me of living a beautiful life.
Prayer still works , remember to invite God into your healing process because doing it alone without His divine power can be exhausting.
Friends, we are doing better than what we think. Let’s keep working on our healing and honor our progress…
So Proud of us God bless y’all 🤗
By the way I feel like ending this with these beautiful lyrics from the song Savior by Destiny’s child. Hahah
🎶 “ I'm a survivor , I'm not gon' give up
I'm not gon' stop , I'm gon' work harder
I'm a survivor , I'm gonna make it
I will survive , keep on survivin' “ 🎶
Yes, let’s keep on surviving and thriving fam!!!! ✊🏾
With great, great Love
Igicaniro
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