WAITING WITH STYLE

  

(one’s testimony)

Hello beautiful people 🤗 

We are back again with a new topic about time and patience (how to wait when you’re still in the process) , we talked about *taking care our mental health *, *time to make boss moves* and *how to attract the job we want*. Now it's time to know how to wait within the process, making  changes, moves or manifesting opportunities.There will be some confessions from one of the members of IGICANIRO  on how she is dealing with the challenges in the midst of the pandemic.

  

We all know that it’s easy to start something but to finish it, It can be a little bit hard due to the obstacles we meet when we’re in the middle of that journey. One of the obstacles that is common is *Time*; When we find what we want , it doesn’t always happen at the specific time we want, and we need to learn how to wait for the right time to take action.

But , first  let’s celebrate those who have already started confronting their fears and have put in work  what they believe they can become in their future, even in this time where the pandemic is trying to slow down everything. I pray that you keep that boldness and Courage, Amen.

Everybody hates to wait on something and this is because of the lifestyle we  know now, everything has to be fast!! eg:we all  love to go to fast food because we are not going to wait for a long time for the meal we want . And I understand that because I’ve never met someone who says * OMG I’m having so much fun waiting for the bus to come or standing in the waiting line in the bank and be like *this is really fun*.

In this new post ,We came up with some tips that can help to be  more patient and make us wait with style 😉. So , let's take a look at this.  

    

1. *Give meditation a try,find healthy ways to relieve frustration*: sometimes it may feel like years have gone doing nothing,or begun comparing yourself to others who are successful,from there  frustration can be built up. Finding a healthy way to relieve that frustration, for example practicing meditation for just a few minutes a day, another example is react in a more positive way and learning to sit with the moments and appreciating everything you already have ,is much easier and helps while waiting. 

[ Confession Time]:  I'm a person who is really extremely not patient, so sitting in my room and trying to meditate when I’m  going through a lot of pain or anxiety it can not be easy for your girl, I unconsciously start thinking on things i should not or looking at my phone , there’s this crave i feel like I have to do something not just sitting . But it changed the day I realized that it  was happening because I was used to searching for distractions in order to relieve my pain , anxiety or frustration. And those distractions were my addictions that I have built unconsciously , 

So the shift moment happens when I told myself that I needed to acknowledge them and work on them. 

What I did to work on them(distractions or my addiction..) was  first to listen to what I'm feeling , to respect them « stop being hard to myself »  and to be ok with them « talk back to my feelings with a gentle voice » and to trust it’s gonna be okay « To remind myself that my Heavenly Father got me and to  trust Him that this is just temporary😊 » .

 There’s this message of Joyce Meyer that helped where she says : * You don’t have to feel secure to be secure, you don’t have to feel confident to be confident.* That was my turning point, I always remind myself of this and to tell myself that I am more than my feelings 😌. 

So now I love to wake up in the morning and have my quiet time routine  where I just sit and do nothing , letting those voices come up on the surface after maybe 30 min or one hour I shut them up with a prayer, and go on with a bible verse of the day…. I like to take two words on that verse and meditate on them and repeat them  three times, for example if I read a verse that talks about hope and trust *I repeat 1.God 2.Trust 3.Hope * 

.... That’s my meditation, I just feed my soul with beautiful words that give me peace . And I end my meditation by saying thank you, thank, thank you …

 it can be a hundred times  because I do it when I'm doing my bed😂 …

 This has really changed me in the way I know now how to be still and to appreciate everything I already have but especially to be mature on how I should deal with my feelings. 

So this is my equation to have internal peace when you are dealing with frustration..:    

TRUST + COURAGE =INTERNAL PEACE 

Obviously  courage is needed  to trust that everything will be ok in the end. 

    

2.  *take a hobby*

Time passes slowly when you keep waiting for results immediately. You need to find something that can help you to relax , throw yourself into a new hobby and time will seem like it's passing more quickly. Here we don’t mean you need to have those unhealthy distractions for example scrolling on Instagram like for three hours, we want you to find something to do , things to free you to always think about the results you want to see. You matter more than your goals , have time to do something for yourself and create memories. There are some healthy distractions eg: playing sports, learning to play an instrument or to start journaling….. etc 

3. *Prepare yourself for change*:

 When you're alone in a quiet place or when you are going to sleep, visualize how you are going to react next time your trigger comes, are you going to rush yourself with multitasking in your head?? Jump from thought to thought??.It's better to write down what makes you impatient and work on controlling your trigger .This will help you to slow down and focus on one task at time and remove those things that stress you out.

4. *Take baby steps*

 Taking small steps will help feel like you're contributing to something important. And take time to acknowledge and celebrate your private wins. Don’t wait for someone else to notice that for you to feel  or recognize there’s something you have accomplished so far. Being grateful is so important because it also calms your mind and helps you to see you are doing something. 

    "Patience is power,patience is not an absence of action, rather it is "timing" it waits on the right time to act,for the right principles and in the right way."    Fulton J.SHEEN

 By learning how to enjoy and cherish every moment in your process , you will become better at making decisions,you will take time to assess every situation and will understand that making rash decisions is never beneficial. And this is also important , learn to have  some good rest when you feel exhausted and tired. Make a pause and recharge your energy. 

As we end this here, we would like to hear from you what were your tools, tips or routines that helped you to stay focused on your goals in this year of  2020, so much is going on this year especially because of the covid 19 the normal life has changed a lot . 

Please share in the comments and let’s build each other up. 

Sending prayers and Love to y’all , and remember to take care of your mind, take care of your soul, take care of yourself before you care for the world. 

With great, great Love 

Igicaniro